December 20, 2018 | eaglespi | Leave a comment Pass on the emotional roller coaster ride that the twelfth month offers. December seems left to be the month of woulda/shoulda/couldas every year. All of our unmet expectations, unresolved issues and deep deep desires surface. Not always comfortable, not even for an Empowered Empath. But it doesn’t have to be that way… if you truly love and accept yourself. Are you willing to love yourself enough this season to more consciously use the whole ‘give to get’ strategy that you may have been running subconsciously? Family gatherings can remain opportunities to be love, when you are not seeking external approval or caught in old dynamics. Company parties can be a chance to have real face to face chats with colleagues that you may only recognize by interoffice email address. Churches or synagogues or mosques or temples or forests may be places you visit seeking connection during this sacred time. Give yourself permission to get your needs for connection met in a healthy way. Truly it is a time to be a loving presence and share heart to heart and that is way easier if you are in your heart yourself rather than this more clearly identified argument strategy that underlies many family gatherings at holiday time. (Couldn’t resist. Ever used or watched any of the strategies being used? The alcohol one really felt like an ouch when I saw this.) Today’s Holiday Tip: Whether it is using Louise Hay’s mirror work strategy of looking into the eyes of your sweet self and saying, ‘I love you,’ or using affirmations like the one from the EmpathWays deck shown below, keep the self-talk positive as much as possible. Lovingly catch yourself when you start repeating painful holiday memories in your mind as you are getting ready to go out. Remember, believing is seeing, so let your mind project images and ideas that support you in the way that feels best. Raise your energy by amplifying positive thoughts, images and experiences. Focus on what you do want. And of course, be sure you are already giving to yourself the very thing you are seeking. So for example, if what you are wanting is acceptance from others, first give it to yourself. If what you are wanting is love and compassion from others, first give it to yourself. Whether a relative or a friend or a colleague ‘gets you’ this holiday is not the most important thing. The most important thing my friend, is that you love and honour and respect yourself and make choices that demonstrate that. I am inviting you to use the last few days of December to really be your very best companion, cheerleader and or lifecoach by showing up and supporting yourself. Trust that you are indeed loving and loveable and loved, exactly as you are now! Many blessings, EagleSpirit December 20th’s affirmation: * Today’s affirmation comes from the Empathways ~ Affirmations for Sensitive Soul series. Get your personal set for your altar or to give as a gift at our gift shop. We want to help you celebrate your holiday season and deepen into the joy of thriving as a sensitive soul! Each morning a new door will open to help you savour the day and honour your sensitivities. Imagine opening a daily treat from now until December 25th that has been created just for you! Do you have other tips about caring for your wellness at the holidays, or a story to share that might help others? Please share in the comment section below. Together we are stronger! EagleSpirit, a Contemporary Shaman, has worked for over 20 years to help clients relax their bodies, release limiting beliefs and radiate their most authentic selves. As the creator of Empath 101 Empowerment program she speaks to groups internationally, facilitates the month-long course that has changed lives and is often featured in the media for her grounded approach to spirituality. Visit here for more details about Empath 101 and contact us if you would like to sponsor the program in your area. Email to find our about personalized Soul Journeys, the 2019 Sedona Spirit Quest Tours or private sessions. You deserve to feel Soul Good!