26/08/2014 | | Leave a comment “Like food is to the body, self-talk is to the mind. Don’t let any junk thoughts repeat in your head.” Maddy Malhotra, How to Build Self-Esteem and Be Confident: Overcome Fears, Break Habits, Be Successful and Happy Now that you are aware of the inner chatter going on in your mind, let’s look at how that could be useful to you as an Empath. When you are able to bring your point of focus to something within yourself, the sense of being overwhelmed by another’s energy is dismissed! The monkey mind that hops about here and there could actually prove useful if you can ask it to work with you. Eventually, as you give your mind something useful to do, your mind will relax and settle. The key is you want it to have an awareness of your Self and the energetic cues you are experiencing. You truly need your own attention and today you have the opportunity to honour that need. It may almost be like really seeing yourself as you are for the very first time! Exercise – Day Two Imagine for today that you are going to spend a few minutes getting to know this new person. Perhaps you will have a nice cup of tea, or you may strike up a conversation with yourself while out at an event or on your drive to work. If you were meeting someone for the first time, what might you ask him or her? How would you talk? What kind of questions would you ask to get that person to feel comfortable sharing with you? How would you actively practice conscious listening so that he or she would know you were interested? To give you an idea of what I mean, the conversation might go something like this… ‘Wow this is quite a lineup at the grocery store today isn’t it? I am so glad you are here with me today, as now we have time to chat a bit and get to know each other better. I notice you have some really healthy food in your cart, do you always eat this way? What do you like about healthy eating? How did you get interested in that? You sure do look healthy! How are you feeling right now? If you are tired we could do a quick visualization to re-energize if you would like. I was wondering, if you could go anywhere on vacation where would it be? We could picture being there right now! Wow what a wonderful smile you have. What were you just thinking? Someone told me you are taking a course right now, is that true? Tell me about that.’ Get the idea? Your mind is running around anyways, for today’s exercise you are going to give it a job for at least 2 minutes, twice today. Twice today, you are going to take 2 minutes from your busy schedule getting to know more about a very interesting person — YOU. Allow the mind to really connect with you as though you were meeting yourself for the first time. Of course your mind will be kind, courteous and fascinated by your wonderful self, so be sure to lavish much praise and ask plenty of questions. One of the many benefits of doing such an exercise is it gives the mind something to do that is positive. There is no judgment or criticism in your thoughts… only utter fascination with this new friend you are meeting. Another benefit of this exercise is that if you are focused on you, then you are much less likely to pick up random energetic cues from others. So this is another way of stopping unconscious energetic merging. Affirmation- Day Two I now enjoy connecting with my true Self in the present moment and let go of old limiting beliefs. I stop neglecting my truth to please other people. It is safe for me to share my most authentic Self with everyone I meet.