Dear Hallmark, we need to talk about Mothers Day cards.

Mothers Day is one of those days that, like many who have dealt with family abuse, I have found challenging. Every time one of these holidays comes up I need to check in with my Inner Child to see where I am at and what feels loving and nurturing to do. And for those of us who struggle to find ways to communicate most honestly, we are left with Facebook and phone calls because there is nothing on your store shelf that we are going to splurge on. Your cards don’t speak to us or for us.

Where are the cards that allow us to express how we are truly feeling?

Forget the saccharin sweet cards with flowers on the front and mushy messages in the centre. We have come a long way and done a lot of personal healing to get to the point where we can confidently and gracefully drop F-bombs when needed without compromising our own sweet souls.

Mothers Day is simply a perfect opportunity to check in and see how WE are doing with it all and to communicate clearly. Our heads and hearts need to match up.

Where are the F-bomb cards that acknowledge things as they are rather than how we wish they would have been?, I ask. Our adults are ready to say what our Inner Children need to have expressed and we can do it with love.

The F-bomb I am talking about is Forgiveness.

And we do offer forgiveness for the ones who have hurt us and indeed for ourselves. It is time to let the old stories go. It is also time to let the hopes of the past being any different than what it was. We acknowledge that whoever parented us did their best.

And we also embrace the saying that one is never too old to have a happy childhood, because we take responsibility for our lives and know we can parent ourselves and keep our Inner Child (who is still very much alive) nurtured and nourished.

Sometimes it is treats s/he wants, or fun, or friends and family, or some other simple act of love and compassion. It matters now because we are able to show up for ourselves. We are willing and able to meet our own needs rather than waiting for another who was (and still may be) unable to be there for us.

For all of us who have survived and are now thriving we want to reach out, but we are determined to make it real. Holidays may have been hard in the past, but now we know we can make it better for ourselves. And darn it, we just might buy a card if there was one that we could open without crying or making us feel like we are telling tall tales.

Many blessings, EagleSpirit

EagleSpirit, a Contemporary Shaman, has worked for over 20 years to help clients relax their bodies, release limiting beliefs and radiate their most authentic selves.

As the creator of Empath 101 Empowerment program she speaks to groups internationally, facilitates the month-long course that has changed lives and is often featured in the media for her grounded approach to spirituality.

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