I don’t care how flowy your outfit is, what piercings or tattoos you are sporting, or how many medicinal plants you have tried,  saying ‘no problem,’ or ‘I forgive you’ through gritted teeth, are clear signs you have been trying spiritual shortcuts. And you know what happens with those right? The same issue appears again and often more loudly until you ‘get it.’

Rather than continuing to feel knocked down or blocked, do the work. It will be the best and most loving investment you will ever choose.

Make the connections. Love yourself up! Truly doing the work moves you  ahead so much more easily. YOU authentically show up  with or without someone’s perception of what a spiritual gold star looks like. This poem by Portia Nelson puts it perfectly.

There’s a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

I am lost… I am helpless.
It isn’t my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don’t see it.
I fall in again.
I can’t believe I am in the same place.
But, it isn’t my fault.
It still takes me a long time to get out.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it is there.
I still fall in. It’s a habit.
My eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault. I get out immediately.

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I walk around it.

I walk down another street.I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.

So how do you get to walk down another street? You do the work. You don’t stay on the surface. You dive deep and you do it with compassion for yourself.

Letting go of upset and getting to the juicy stuff… the self-awareness of what the situation is presenting to you can be a huge blessing! Caution though, it might make you offer random hugs. And not everyone wants them, but that is ok. Open your heart anyway.

That lesson hit me hard one morning when I ran into a woman who had once been a close friend. We hadn’t seen each other in several years and so it was a bit of a shock to see her in this setting, but isn’t that just the crafty way Spirit works? Just when you least expect it… BOOM.. your next test arrives. It is though Spirit says, ‘heard all those prayers honey, now let’s see you put it into action. Go!’

I walked by her. I had been waiting over 2 years for an apology and the money she owed me and this time there was no pull in my stomach like there had been every time I had thought of her. Two years of forgiveness work and deep soul searching had brought me what I was truly seeking. It was not money. It was peace.

I knew I couldn’t just walk by her, I needed to offer a hug and a thank you. I wanted to celebrate! I turned around and said to her ‘This just doesn’t feel right. Can I give you a hug?’ Could have knocked her over with a feather duster it seemed. She blinked. Looked down and then said no. ‘Ok,’ I mumbled quietly, ‘Thank you. I was willing.’ And while I was shocked, I wasn’t deflated. I was jubilant. Why? Because in that moment I was willing. And that willingness had untied the energetic hook we still had from withholding my forgiveness and ignoring my lesson. It felt like she had set me free, even without the hug! I didn’t need her gold star. I needed mine.

I worked many systems to get me to that place. I called on many teachers. Louise Hay who has wonderful affirmations to help. Byron Katie whose method of inquiry really helps you explore the thoughts you hold and the harm they create. And of course the wonderful Ho’oponopono approach that Ihaleakala Hew Len became known for in his work with criminally insane. And holy moly when that spiritual snap quiz came up, I passed! THANK YOU!

You can do it too. You can stop waiting for that apology that may never come. You can give yourself the approval you are seeking. Making amends and returning to your natural state of being (a state of love) can be done energetically and it will impact on your life in the physical somewhere down the line. What is more important, however, is that it will impact you immediately on all four energetic levels so that you can return to peace.

My best suggestion for getting back to you?

Imagine that every experience has been your choice and it holds a gift. Every experience. That might be easy for the pleasurable memories, for the dreams you have made reality, but can you own the experiences that aren’t so warm and fuzzy? The wait in traffic. The cell phone bill. The unhealthy or unhappy relationship.  This is where discernment and processing techniques that I teach clients in soul attunements or help them use in real time situations like on Soul Journeys become very real and practical. 

 

Today’s Invitation…

Ever felt like you were ready for your own spiritual gold star? Give it to yourself now and we will cheer you on.

Go to the comments section below and share your best story about doing the deep work and letting go. I would love to hear it!

*Adapted from EagleSpirit’s ‘Living From a Soul Perspective’ online series

 

EagleSpirit, a Contemporary Shaman, has worked for over 20 years to help clients relax their bodies, release limiting beliefs and radiate their most authentic selves.

As the creator of Empath 101 Empowerment program she speaks to groups internationally, facilitates the month-long course that has changed lives and is often featured in the media for her grounded approach to spirituality.

Visit here for more details about Empath 101 and contact us if you would like to sponsor the program in your area. Email to find our about personalized Soul Journeys or private sessions. You deserve to feel Soul Good!